Clean up part 2

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Absolutely! Here's a printable and mobile-friendly checklist version of your Gentle Cleaning Ritual. It’s designed to be soothing, simple, and emotionally supportive, whether viewed on your phone or printed and posted in your space.

🧘‍♀️ Gentle Cleaning Ritual Checklist
“Caring for My Space, Not Perfecting It”

🌼 BEFORE YOU CLEAN (Grounding – 1–2 minutes)
☐ Sit quietly for a moment
☐ Hand on heart or stomach
☐ Say/think:

“I’m safe. I choose to begin slowly.”
“Small steps are enough. I don’t need to finish.”

🧹 CLEANING SESSION (5–10 mins max)
☐ Choose one small zone only (e.g. shelf, chair, drawer)
☐ Set a timer (5 or 10 minutes)
☐ Begin gently — no rushing
☐ Stop when the timer rings, even if you feel like continuing

🧺 SAFE MESS ZONE
☐ Use a tray, box, or basket for:

Items you’re unsure about

Temporary “thinking” clutter

☐ Say to yourself:

“This is not a failure zone. It’s where I give myself space to decide later.”

🧠 AFTER CLEANING (Debrief – 2 mins or less)
☐ Sit and take 3 deep breaths
☐ Ask yourself:

How do I feel now?

What part of me resisted?

What helped me move through?

☐ Whisper or write:

“I showed up. That’s enough for today.”
“The mess does not define me.”

🗓️ OPTIONAL WEEKLY RHYTHM
Day Focus Check ✓
Monday Clean 1 small surface ☐
Wednesday Emotional grounding (no cleaning) ☐
Friday Sort 2–3 items in Safe Mess Zone ☐
Sunday Return 1 item to its place ☐
💬 Affirmation Space (write or say aloud)
“I am learning to care, not control.”
“Progress happens gently and in layers.”
“Even when I pause, I’m healing.”

✅ TIP: Print this and put it in:
Your journal

Your wall or fridge

Inside a drawer or closet door

Or screenshot it for your phone’s home screen

Would you like me to format this into a downloadable PDF file you can print or save?

Clean up - part 1

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1. Hi, may i know why every time i try to clean up the house, i am successful at first attempt, while it followed by retaliation to the process and i make more mess than before. This happen even when i tried just a little step towards cleaning up.

The myth of cleaning up.
The act of cleaning up on the surface


Hi, thank you for sharing this—it’s a more common struggle than most people admit, and there are actually several layered psychological and emotional reasons this can happen. Let’s unpack it gently:



🧠 What’s Possibly Happening (Internally):

1. Initial Success = High Motivation + Hope

* That **first step** feels rewarding because you’ve taken control.
* You likely get a **dopamine boost**, which makes the act of cleaning feel doable, even exciting.

2. **Retaliation = Emotional or Mental Overwhelm**

* After the initial high, you might start **feeling pressure**—like now you “must” keep going or maintain it.

* If you’ve linked cleaning with **past shame, guilt, or expectations** (from childhood, caretakers, or inner standards), those emotions can surface and sabotage the progress.

3. **Mess = Manifestation of Inner Conflict**

* Making more mess afterward may not be laziness—it could be a subconscious **defense mechanism**:

  * “If I mess it up again, I don’t have to face the pressure to keep it perfect.”
  * “If I sabotage this now, no one can say I failed later.”

---

### 🌀 **It’s Often a Cycle:**

1. You clean → feel great
2. Internal critic or perfectionist kicks in → anxiety or overwhelm
3. You "fail" to keep going → frustration
4. Mess increases → guilt → restart loop

---

### 💡 What You Can Try:

#### 1. **Change the Goal: From “Clean” to “Care”**

* Instead of thinking “I need to clean the house,” try “I want to care for this space in small ways.”
* Shifts the energy from pressure to kindness.

#### 2. **Make Micro-Messes Safe**

* It’s okay if things get a little messier as part of sorting.
* Tell yourself: “Mess is part of progress, not proof of failure.”

3. **Connect Emotionally to a Small Zone**

* Choose **one small area** (a table, drawer, or shelf) and make it **your emotional anchor**.
* Whenever other areas spiral, return to this anchor. It’s a symbol that “I can do this.”

4. **Talk Back to the Inner Critic**

* When you feel resistance rising, pause and ask:

  * “Whose voice is telling me I must get it all done perfectly?”
  * “What if it’s okay not to finish today?”

---

### ✍️ Journaling Prompt (If You Like Writing):

> “When I clean and then mess things up again, I feel \_\_\_\_. This reminds me of \_\_\_\_. What I wish I could feel instead is \_\_\_\_.”

---

### 🕊️ You’re Not Alone

This is a **healing process**, not just a cleaning one. You may be working through **old patterns of self-sabotage**, perfectionism, or even trauma.

If you'd like, I can help you build a gentle, non-linear cleaning ritual that suits your emotional rhythm.

Would you like help building one?

Wonderful. Let's create a **gentle, healing cleaning ritual** that works with your emotional rhythm—not against it. This will be less about being “productive” and more about feeling **emotionally safe** and **emotionally seen** while you clean.

---

## 🌱 **Your Personalized Cleaning Ritual**

(*designed for someone who self-sabotages after an initial burst of progress*)

---

### **1. Name the Process**

Give your cleaning journey a kind, sacred name.
Examples:

* “Caring for My Space”
* “Returning Home to Myself”
* “Tidying with Tenderness”
  This changes the meaning from “chore” to “choice.”

✅ *Your turn: What would you like to call it?*
(I can continue using your chosen name in the steps.)

---

### **2. Pre-Cleaning Grounding (1–2 mins only)**

Before you begin:

* Sit still.
* Place your hand on your heart or stomach.
* Whisper (or think):

  > “I’m safe. It’s okay to begin. I’m not alone.”
  > “Small steps are enough. I don't need to finish.”

This creates emotional permission.

---

### **3. Set a Micro-Zone + Micro-Time**

* Pick **one zone only**: e.g., your bedside table, a drawer, one chair.
* Clean for **only 5 or 10 minutes max.**
  Use a **timer** if helpful—then stop when it rings.

👉 *This helps your nervous system feel safe with stopping instead of going into overdrive.*

---

### **4. Create a “Safe Mess Zone”**

Designate a tray, basket, or corner where you’re allowed to:

* Place things you’re unsure about.
* Dump items temporarily without guilt.

Tell yourself:

> “This is my thinking zone, not my failing zone.”

---

### **5. Emotional Debrief (Very Brief)**

After cleaning:

* Sit down.
* Take 3 deep breaths.
* Ask yourself gently:

  * “How do I feel now?”
  * “Did anything inside me resist? Why?”
  * “Did I expect more from myself?”

Write one sentence if you like, or just whisper it.

---

### **6. Celebrate the Fact You Showed Up**

Not what you cleaned. Just the fact that:

* You **tried**.
* You **faced resistance**.
* You **listened to yourself**.

Even if you made more mess afterward, it’s still part of the cycle unwinding.

💬 Example affirmation:

> “I showed up. That’s enough for today.”
> “The mess does not reflect my worth.”

---

## 📅 Weekly Rhythm (Optional)

| Day       | Ritual Focus             | Notes                               |
| --------- | ------------------------ | ----------------------------------- |
| Monday    | Clean 1 small surface    | Set timer. Stop after it rings.     |
| Wednesday | Emotional grounding only | No cleaning—just reflect or plan.   |
| Friday    | “Safe Mess” zone sorting | Sort 2–3 things. Not full clean-up. |
| Sunday    | Reset with care          | Return 1 item to where it belongs.  |

*This gentle pace builds trust with yourself again.*

---

Would you like me to turn this into a printable or mobile-friendly checklist for daily use?

And would you like help naming your ritual now?

5.Absolutely! Here's a **printable and mobile-friendly checklist** version of your **Gentle Cleaning Ritual**. It’s designed to be soothing, simple, and emotionally supportive, whether viewed on your phone or printed and posted in your space.

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## 🧘‍♀️ *Gentle Cleaning Ritual Checklist*

**“Caring for My Space, Not Perfecting It”**

---

### 🌼 BEFORE YOU CLEAN (Grounding – 1–2 minutes)

☐ Sit quietly for a moment
☐ Hand on heart or stomach
☐ Say/think:

> “I’m safe. I choose to begin slowly.”
> “Small steps are enough. I don’t need to finish.”

---

### 🧹 CLEANING SESSION (5–10 mins max)

☐ Choose one **small zone only** (e.g. shelf, chair, drawer)
☐ Set a timer (5 or 10 minutes)
☐ Begin gently — no rushing
☐ Stop *when the timer rings*, even if you feel like continuing

---

### 🧺 SAFE MESS ZONE

☐ Use a tray, box, or basket for:

* Items you’re unsure about
* Temporary “thinking” clutter

☐ Say to yourself:

> “This is not a failure zone. It’s where I give myself space to decide later.”

---

### 🧠 AFTER CLEANING (Debrief – 2 mins or less)

☐ Sit and take 3 deep breaths
☐ Ask yourself:

* How do I feel now?
* What part of me resisted?
* What helped me move through?

☐ Whisper or write:

> “I showed up. That’s enough for today.”
> “The mess does not define me.”

---

### 🗓️ OPTIONAL WEEKLY RHYTHM

| Day       | Focus                             | Check ✓ |
| --------- | --------------------------------- | ------- |
| Monday    | Clean 1 small surface             | ☐       |
| Wednesday | Emotional grounding (no cleaning) | ☐       |
| Friday    | Sort 2–3 items in Safe Mess Zone  | ☐       |
| Sunday    | Return 1 item to its place        | ☐       |

---

## 💬 Affirmation Space (write or say aloud)

> “I am learning to care, not control.”
> “Progress happens gently and in layers.”
> “Even when I pause, I’m healing.”

---

### ✅ TIP: Print this and put it in:

* Your journal
* Your wall or fridge
* Inside a drawer or closet door
* Or screenshot it for your phone’s home screen

---

Would you like me to format this into a downloadable **PDF file** you can print or save?



Clean up - draft

Norsanina.blogspot.com

Absolutely! Here's a printable and mobile-friendly checklist version of your Gentle Cleaning Ritual. It’s designed to be soothing, simple, and emotionally supportive, whether viewed on your phone or printed and posted in your space.


🧘‍♀️ Gentle Cleaning Ritual Checklist

“Caring for My Space, Not Perfecting It”


🌼 BEFORE YOU CLEAN (Grounding – 1–2 minutes)

☐ Sit quietly for a moment
☐ Hand on heart or stomach
☐ Say/think:

“I’m safe. I choose to begin slowly.”
“Small steps are enough. I don’t need to finish.”


🧹 CLEANING SESSION (5–10 mins max)

☐ Choose one small zone only (e.g. shelf, chair, drawer)
☐ Set a timer (5 or 10 minutes)
☐ Begin gently — no rushing
☐ Stop when the timer rings, even if you feel like continuing


🧺 SAFE MESS ZONE

☐ Use a tray, box, or basket for:

  • Items you’re unsure about

  • Temporary “thinking” clutter

☐ Say to yourself:

“This is not a failure zone. It’s where I give myself space to decide later.”


🧠 AFTER CLEANING (Debrief – 2 mins or less)

☐ Sit and take 3 deep breaths
☐ Ask yourself:

  • How do I feel now?

  • What part of me resisted?

  • What helped me move through?

☐ Whisper or write:

“I showed up. That’s enough for today.”
“The mess does not define me.”


🗓️ OPTIONAL WEEKLY RHYTHM

Day Focus Check ✓
Monday Clean 1 small surface
Wednesday Emotional grounding (no cleaning)
Friday Sort 2–3 items in Safe Mess Zone
Sunday Return 1 item to its place

💬 Affirmation Space (write or say aloud)

“I am learning to care, not control.”
“Progress happens gently and in layers.”
“Even when I pause, I’m healing.”


✅ TIP: Print this and put it in:

  • Your journal

  • Your wall or fridge

  • Inside a drawer or closet door

  • Or screenshot it for your phone’s home screen


Would you like me to format this into a downloadable PDF file you can print or save?

Insight rizq 2

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Insight rizq 2

Blending Islamic thought with self-awareness:

1. Rizq is more than money

In Islam, "rizq" (sustenance) is not just about how much money you make:

.It includes health, peace of mind, shelter, friendship, knowledge, and even the ability to worship ("ibadah').

.When you feed your cat from your income, that too is a part of your "rizq"—and a "barakah"-filled act if done with sincerity.

“And there is no creature on earth but that upon Allah is its provision…” (Qur'an 11:6)

Low income does not always mean blocked "rizq".

.A small income like RM50 per day can feel limiting, but it doesn't necessarily mean your "rizq" is blocked.

.It may be a phase, a test ("ibtila"), or even a way that Allah is purifying or preparing you for something greater.


Am I focusing too much on money?

.This is a powerful reflection. If money becomes the only lens, then we may overlook hidden blessings.

.But worrying about survival isn’t wrong—it’s natural. What matters is your intention ("niyyah"): are you trying your best while relying on Allah?

4. Could a shadow entity be taking my "rizq"?

In Islam, "jinn" or unseen beings exist, and envy ("hasad") or black magic can affect a person—but these are rare and only happen by Allah’s permission.

.The stronger explanation is psychological and spiritual: it may be "self-sabotage", fear of growth, unresolved trauma, or even low self-worth that limits your openness to new opportunities.

Are you blocking your own "rizq"?

Yes, that’s possible in these forms:

Negative beliefs (e.g., “I don't deserve more”)
Guilt from the past (as you've shared before)
Fear of success or change
Lack of action due to overthinking or perfectionism

6. Dhikr and stored "rizq"

Correct point, some "rizq" is immediate (in this world), and some is stored for the "akhirah". Your "dhikr" nourishes your soul and builds "barakah" in invisible ways.

But that doesn’t mean you won’t receive anything now—it can manifest as:

.An unexpected discount
.Someone helping you
.A sudden idea or skill
.A new way of seeing things (mental clarity = "rizq")

7. What to do now?

Here’s a balanced approach:

Spiritual: Continue "dhikr", "dua", and daily tawakkul. Ask, “Ya Allah, show me the doors of "rizq" that I do not see.”

Practical: Review skills, habits, or blocks. Are you avoiding something because of fear or low confidence?

Reflective: Journal on this question: “What am I afraid will happen if I suddenly receive a lot more money?”

Final Thought:

You are not being punished. You are being shown. Maybe your "rizq" isn’t missing—it’s just appearing in forms you haven’t recognized yet.

Would you like to explore if there’s a practical step you're unconsciously avoiding that might open a door to more income? I can help you dig gently.
Great. Let’s explore this step-by-step, like uncovering a hidden door. I’ll guide you with gentle but honest prompts to help reveal if there’s a practical step you might be avoiding that could unlock more *rizq*.


Part 1: Your Current Relationship with Money

Let’s reflect on your inner story.

1. When you think about making more money, what’s the "first" emotion or thought that comes up?
Examples: fear, excitement, “not good enough,” too hard, guilt, “I’ll lose my peace,” etc.

My answer. Fear of unknown, and I'll will lose my peace. I am not lucky enough. 

2. Have you ever turned down or avoided an opportunity (job, project, selling something, asking for payment) because of fear, shame, or self-doubt?

If yes, describe one example briefly.
Answer: i feel shame to ask for money and order. I feel I'm not good enough to ask for it. I am inclined to give it free most of the time, turn out I got bullied by client.


Part 2: Beliefs That Might Be Blocking You

Your belief system shapes your action.

3. Do you believe that if you earn more, something else will go wrong?
(Like your peace, worship, or relationships will suffer?)
Yes, i i earn more, i might tell everybody and i will lose my peace.

4. Do you secretly believe that you’re not meant to have more money than you currently do?
Sometimes this is rooted in childhood experiences or how others treated our success.

My answer : Yes i am. People don't like my success. I think they prefer someone else to be successful. This happened because in a family, there will be favourite child and the other child is meant to support other physically and emotionally. 


Part 3: Hidden Skills or Untapped "Rizq"

Now let’s explore the practical side.

5. What is one skill, idea, or small business you’ve thought about starting—but haven’t yet?
It could be selling, writing, translating, teaching, repairing, designing, etc.

I want to sell home produce food.


6. What’s stopping you from doing it now—even just the first step?
Be honest. Is it energy? Fear? Not knowing where to start?

Capital in term of money and confidence. 

You can answer these one by one. Don’t worry about sounding “correct.” I’ll help you make sense of it after. Sometimes just "naming" the block already unlocks part of the door.

Ready when you are.

2. Great. Let’s explore this step-by-step, like uncovering a hidden door. I’ll guide you with gentle but honest prompts to help reveal if there’s a practical step you might be avoiding that could unlock more rizq.

Part 1: Your Current Relationship with Money

Let’s reflect on your inner story.

1. When you think about making more money, what’s the first emotion or thought that comes up?
Examples: fear, excitement, “not good enough,” too hard, guilt, “I’ll lose my peace,” etc.

2. Have you ever turned down or avoided an opportunity (job, project, selling something, asking for payment) because of fear, shame, or self-doubt?
If yes, describe one example briefly.

Part 2: Beliefs That Might Be Blocking You

Your belief system shapes your action.

3. Do you believe that if you earn more, something else will go wrong?
(Like your peace, worship, or relationships will suffer?)

4. Do you secretly believe that you’re not meant to have more money than you currently do?
Sometimes this is rooted in childhood experiences or how others treated our success.

Part 3: Hidden Skills or Untapped Rizq

Now let’s explore the practical side.

5. What is one skill, idea, or small business you’ve thought about starting—but haven’t yet?
It could be selling, writing, translating, teaching, repairing, designing, etc.

6. What’s stopping you from doing it now—even just the first step?
Be honest. Is it energy? Fear? Not knowing where to start?

You can answer these one by one. Don’t worry about sounding “correct.” I’ll help you make sense of it after. Sometimes just naming the block already unlocks part of the door.

Ready when you are.


Insight "rizq"

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"Insight rizq"

Rizq Beyond Numbers: When Provision Comes as Protection

Many of us are taught to believe that when we ask Allah for "rizq" (provision), it will appear in the form of increased income, new opportunities, or material ease. We may follow pious advice to perform dhikr, make duʿa, or seek forgiveness in hopes that our sustenance will expand. And when the results don’t show up as expected—when there’s no visible change in wealth—we begin to wonder:

Did anything really happen?

But what if we’re measuring it the wrong way?

Recently, I reflected on an incident where I performed the recommended dhikr, sincerely seeking more "rizq". 

The next day, my income didn’t increase—but I narrowly avoided an accident. That moment shifted something deep within me. Could it be that the "rizq" I asked for had indeed arrived—not as money, but as safety?

The Wider Meaning of Rizq

In Islam, "rizq" is not limited to money. It is everything Allah provides:

A breath taken in ease
A delay that saves us
A cancellation that steers us from harm
A moment of peace in a chaotic day

Sometimes, protection "is" the provision. What we didn’t lose, what didn’t happen, what danger quietly passed us by—these are often overlooked as forms of divine care.

When the Unseen Is the Answer

The Divine is everpresent, unbound by time and space. So too is His mercy. Just because we can’t measure a result in worldly terms doesn’t mean the request was denied. Perhaps what we think of as “no result” was actually the greatest result: a calamity diverted, a burden lifted before it fell.

Allah doesn’t work in trades and transactions like human systems do. He works in perfect wisdom. The provision we receive is often tailored to what we "need", not just what we *want*.

Dhikr as Realignment

When we engage in dhikr, we aren’t just asking—we’re aligning. We’re tuning our hearts to the rhythm of tawakkul (trust in Allah), clearing space for understanding that what comes—or doesn’t—holds divine purpose. Dhikr may not make us richer overnight, but it makes us "more receptive" to a richer meaning of life.

What If the Real Rizq Was What Didn’t Happen?

Perhaps our daily provisions are not just in what we gain, but in what we are quietly spared from. Just as we may never see a tree’s deep roots, we may not always perceive the layers of divine care that sustain our lives.

So the next time your duʿa or dhikr doesn’t “increase your wealth,” ask instead:

Did I lose anything today?
Was I harmed?
Did I find ease where difficulty was expected?

You may find that your "rizq" came—just in a form your heart is only now beginning to understand.



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