Contents
TURNING POINT: I
I AM NOT GOOD ENOUGH 3
I SHOULD GIVE MORE 6
WHY DOES IT FEEL LIKE I'M ALWAYS BROKE? 9
FEELING ABANDONED AND UNWANTED 12
MY PHD STUDY STRUGGLE 16
WHEN RESPONSIBILITY FADES, WHO AM I? 19
REDISCOVERING LIFE BEYOND RESPONSIBILITY 22
LETTING GO—RELEASING WHAT NO LONGER SERVES ME 25
OVERCOMING THE FEAR OF BEING ALONE 28
WHERE AND WHAT YOU WANT AT THIS JUNCTURE 31
UNDERSTANDING THE WEIGHT 37
THE BUBBLE OF EXISTENCE 41
ABOUT THE AUTHOR 47
I am not good enough
Andy sat in front of his laptop, staring at the blank screen. His mind echoed with the same thought that had followed him for years: “I’m not good enough.” It didn’t matter how much he had achieved or how many times people praised his work—somewhere deep inside, a voice kept whispering, “You could have done better. You should have done more.”
It wasn’t just about one moment. It was a feeling that had shaped his life. Every setback, every unfinished goal, every comparison with someone more successful fueled that belief. Why did it feel like everyone else had figured things out, while he was still stuck in this endless cycle of doubt?
But tonight, he had a realization. If this thought kept returning, then maybe it wasn’t the truth—maybe it was just a story his mind had told him for years. And if it was a story, then it could be rewritten.
Four Possible Reasons Why This Thought Exists:
1. Past Failures Weigh Heavily (35%) – A memory of unfinished projects or missed opportunities lingers. The mind holds onto them, making it seem like proof of not being good enough.
2. Comparison with Others (30%) – Seeing people who are more successful, happier, or seemingly ahead in life makes personal achievements feel small. Social media only makes it worse.
3. Unrealistic Expectations (20%) – Setting high standards is good, but when perfection becomes the goal, nothing ever feels like enough.
4. Negative Inner Dialogue (15%) – The habit of self-criticism has been repeated so often that it feels like reality. But just because the mind says it, doesn’t mean it’s true.
Five Remedies to Break Free from This Thought:
1. Reframe Failure as Growth – Instead of seeing mistakes as proof of being ‘not good enough,’ he began to see them as lessons that shaped him.
2. Focus on Personal Progress – His journey was his own. Instead of comparing himself to others, he started measuring himself against who he was yesterday.
3. Redefine Success – Maybe success wasn’t about reaching perfection, but about consistent effort, learning, and growth.
4. Challenge the Negative Voice – Every time his mind whispered, “You’re not good enough,” he would ask, “Where’s the real proof?” Most of the time, there wasn’t any.
5. Practice Self-Compassion – He started treating himself the way he would treat a friend—with patience, encouragement, and kindness.
As he closed his laptop, he realized something. The feeling of ‘not being good enough’ would come and go—but now, he had a way out. And that was enough.
I should give more
Andy sat by the window, staring at the city lights flickering in the distance. The quiet hum of the night felt both peaceful and heavy. A thought gnawed at him—one that had returned time and again. “I should be doing more. Giving more. Contributing more.” But tonight, unlike before, he wasn’t going to push it aside. Tonight, he was going to find his way out.
Four Possible Reasons Why This Thought Exists:
1. Money as a Measure of Worth (35%) – Society often ties a person’s value to their financial contributions. The belief that “If I don’t give money, I’m not doing enough” can feel overwhelming.
2. Comparison with Others (30%) – Seeing others donate, provide, or support financially can create a silent pressure— “If they can do it, why can’t I?” The focus shifts from personal ability to external expectations.
3. Internalized Guilt (20%) – The feeling of wanting to contribute but not being able to can turn into guilt, making it seem like personal shortcomings are the cause.
4. Overlooking Non-Financial Contributions (15%) – Wisdom, time, and emotional support are just as valuable, but when money becomes the main focus, these contributions feel invisible.
Five Remedies to Break Free from This Thought:
1. Reassess Priorities – Andy asked himself, “What truly matters to me?” Money was one form of contribution, but not the only one. He had knowledge, experience, and guidance—things money couldn’t buy.
2. Acknowledge Achievements – Instead of listing regrets, he made a list of what he had gained: lessons learned, struggles overcome, and the people he had helped in ways beyond finances.
3. Redefine Contribution – His strengths lay in writing, teaching, and sharing insights. Instead of focusing on what he lacked, he realized he could give what he already had.
4. Embrace Growth Instead of Crisis – This wasn’t a crisis. It was a shift in understanding. He wasn’t losing time—he was gaining clarity on what truly mattered.
5. Avoid Self-Comparison – He stopped measuring his worth by what others were doing. His path was his own. His way of contributing was uniquely his.
He took a deep breath. The feeling hadn’t disappeared completely, but now it felt different. It wasn’t a burden—it was a guide. He smiled. This was his way out. And maybe, just maybe, it was the beginning of something even greater.
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